As a couples therapist, I've sat with couples, witnessing their pain, frustration, and longing for connection. I've seen the tears, heard the sighs of exasperation, and felt the tension that can build between two people who once shared such deep love. If you're reading this, chances are you're feeling some of that struggle in your own relationship. I want you to know that you're not alone, and there is hope.
Over the years, I've found Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) to be a beacon of light for couples lost in the fog of disconnection. Developed by the brilliant Dr. Sue Johnson, EFT has transformed how we understand and heal relationships. It's not just another communication technique – it's a profound journey into the heart of what makes us human: our need for secure, loving bonds.
What is EFT?
Emotionally Focused Therapy is an evidence-based approach that helps couples identify and transform the negative patterns that keep them stuck. Rather than focusing solely on behavior, EFT dives deeper into the emotional experiences underlying those behaviors.
How EFT Works
EFT helps couples move through cycles of disconnection toward creating a secure emotional bond. We work together to:
- Identify negative interaction patterns
- Access underlying emotions and attachment needs
- Restructure interactions to create new, positive cycles
- Consolidate changes and integrate new patterns
The Journey to Reconnection
Through EFT, couples learn to express their needs vulnerably and respond to each other with empathy and understanding. This creates a secure emotional bond where both partners feel seen, heard, and valued.
If you're struggling in your relationship, know that change is possible. EFT offers a roadmap back to connection, intimacy, and the love that brought you together in the first place.